Five Ways To Increase Communication With Your Spouse 20 things to talk to your spouse about (conversation topics)

Lately, it seems like we are having a hard time reconnecting and talking as husband and wife. It bothers me because it never used to be like this. Whenever we do talk, we talk about Antonio or work. I want to talk about those things but other things, too. I mean, it’s life, it’s what we talk about, of course. I sit trying to find topics to talk about and prepare for conversations beforehand so that I can help create something exciting and fun.

I think that the hardest part of communication is time. We have to truly dedicate ourselves to talking and not be distracted to be effective and not forgetful.

  1. Put the Phone Away: The work can wait, period. No matter who is calling, they can hold. I know this is hard for both of us, but we must do it. One easy text or phone call can cause you to forget and ignore your spouse, and it could be something important to them.
  2. Keep Notes: You can take notes during the conversation but what’s more important is to keep records throughout the day so you can refer back to them later. If you are anything like me, you have something to tell your husband, but then when you go to relay to him, you forget because, well, kids. Right? Make that list of things to talk about before you forget.
  3. Involve Kids: There are separate times and places for a conversation for a husband and wife, and for family talk. Allow time for both so that each person in the family can feel important and let everyone know what’s going on.
  4. Schedule Time: Habits make things easier. A lot of times my husband calls me on his way home. He drives an hour plus home. During this time we talk so I have to remember things mentioned and take care of the kid at the same time. This schedule kind of works, but we need something a little more substantial, so we can focus and not be forgetful.
  5. Really Listen: We can hear, but are we really listening? Repeat back what you are talking about, so that you both know what the conversation encompassed. I don’t know how many times I have “listened,” then forgot about it hours later and felt like it was a blank memory. When you repeat words back (or even write them down), you can genuinely implement and have a conversation.

But beyond all this, what to talk about? Talk about hobbies, friendship, news, politics, work, kids, schedules, meals, goals, or money. All of these topics are a great way to spark a new conversation.
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How to Deal With an Autism Child in Your Family

It’s hard to keep your cool and stick to your regular schedule and development behavior when family is in town. I mean you know the saying grandmas spoil kids. However when you have an autism kid and are really trying to enforce things and no one  wants to listen to you it’s frustrating.

Parents just brush it off instead of understanding how important the schedule and behavior is. They think that one little time wont hurt nothing, but it does.


I know that I get really mad and upset when my parents can’t enforce the way we do because they are grandparents and want to spoil them. I have a hard time communicating so I get it all, but I also know what needs to be done. Instead of yelling or arguing, here are some helpful tips for you as a parent that will help you remain calm during a time like this:


  • walk away: whenever I get really overwhelmed or frustrated, I walk away and let myself cool down. I think about what upset me and allow myself to take it all in. I want to be able to understand why I was upset and how to not regret saying something that I don’t mean.
  • ask politely not to do that: explain the importance behind the reasoning and ask to not do it that way. Show/tell what you didnt like and be upfront with them.
  • take a deep breath: This goes hand in hand with whenever you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, take a few deep breaths and then let them out through your mouth. This is a great way to release that stress and frustration.
  • take the child in the other room and work one on one away from family: When you have an autistic kid, or toddler, they get really distraction and frustrated. Allow yourself to walk away and work with your child away from everyone. This will help calm both of you!

What you can do if you are on the other side .. the family aka grandma. I know that grandparents don’t always understand things but yet want the best for their grand child. So here is what I got from my parents when I was trying to enforce certain things and we got into an argument.

  • ask questions: Allow them to ask questions and be open about things. This can be a new topic to them and they don’t quite understand. Write the schedule down so that way everyone knows it and can understand it better.
  • follow schedules and directions: Make sure to follow the parents schedule for their child and not let it slide. They have a schedule in place for a reason, so enforce it with them.
  • communicate: Allow both of you to chat about what makes your child sad, unhappy, and what his bad habits might be. This can help the grandparents understand more.

What are some things that you have to enforce to your parents (grandparents) for your children? 

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