It’s okay to be single in your 30’s

I feel like there is this big misconception that being single doesn’t mean power, or that you are alone … but what if I enjoy being single? 

Here is the thing, I have been single for almost three years now. I have dated on and off a few different guys, but nothing has stuck. It is not because of all the obvious reasons; but rather because I refuse to settle. 

I have been married before, and I am not just going to settle down with anyone. I have built my own life, that I love and enjoy. Honestly, being single has a lot of great benefits and perks. I am not scared to move forward with the right person.

I’d rather be single than go through the same thing that  I went through before. I truly want to be able to accomplish my goals and dreams for myself and my son. I do not want any distractions or obstacles, this is my time to shine. 

I am constantly working on myself, and you should too. Do more of the things that make you happy. Find your way through all the mess and noise. I feel like for the first time in my life I am truly  happy and where I need to be. At the end of the day,  I have learned that I have to take care of myself, and my son for now. 

I want to empower and inspire more women. It is okay to be single and divorced in your 30’s… 40’s whatever. As long as you are happy! 

Meet Susie Liberatore

As an Art Director with over 10 years of experience in the agency and corporate world, I saw global and local clients missing out on so many opportunities to get leads because of inconsistent branding. My goal is to help them generate new clients with my strategic processes. I help businesses NOT waste time or money and provide the highest quality design and service. As a single mom to an autistic child, I know how valuable time and money are. 

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Yearly Reflection (2021)

Each year I like to take the time to reflect on the good and the bad and the ugly. Let’s face it, life is always up and down. I personally and truly enjoy where I am at in life. I have been working on my self-growth and development for many years. This is such a great feeling to have. 

I simply like to like to share my story with others to let them know they are not alone in whatever they might be struggling or content with. We all go through things in life that we can’t control. I love sharing experiences with single, autistic, and entrepreneur moms. 

Here are some good things that came out of 2021 

  • Grew my business 
  • Antonio started kindergarten (at the best school in the area) 
  • Antonio starting talking 
  • Antonio started to actually read aloud 
  • Antonio had such great progress in all things this year 
  • Made business clients and friends along the way 
  • We are all fully vaccinated. 
  • Slowly started to redecoerate the house 
  • Lost my last 8 pounds 
  • Worked on a healthier me 
  • Fully invested into my faith with Jesus 
  • Gave back to the local communities a lot 
  • Launched a podcast and reached over 3 countries
  • Decluttered my house (got rid of baby items + old items I dont use) 
  • Learned how to outsource in business 
  • Found an amazing dogsitter and babysitter

There was of course some ‘bad’ things that happened: 

  • Had a Gas leak 
  • Home repairs happened more than I’d like (lots of toilet fixes + fridge)
  • My cane corso had chronic ear infections 
  • Pandemic was still here 
  • I had to put down my cane corso (carbon) 

I truly love the independence that I am at right now. You see whenever something ‘bad’ happens it could be worse. Yes, my gas leak happened and cost a ton of money, but I was thankful that we did not get hurt in any way and that was found quickly. I learned a lot along with these areas. I love growing into this wonderful person each day by learning each day about new items, but also by truly being independent. 

As an Art Director with over 10 years of experience in the agency and corporate world, I saw global and local clients missing out on so many opportunities to get leads because of inconsistent branding. My goal is to help them generate new clients with my strategic processes. I help businesses NOT waste time or money and provide the highest quality design and service. As a single mom to an autistic child, I know how valuable time and money is. 

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What I Like Most About Being Single

When I realized I was going to be single, and a single mom, I was scared. I felt a lot more emotions than that, but it felt the strongest. As time went on I was able to feel other things and gain the confidence that I needed in order to be a successful mom and business owner. 

However, here I am still single years later, people often ask me why. There are a few different reasons, all of which are that I am enjoying life. There is so much that I am enjoying right now. I got married young and I wasn’t able to truly enjoy my 20’s the way I could have. I am thankful for the past, but living in the present right now I am doing things that I want to do. 

Too many times people think there is something wrong with the person if they are single for too long. I can let you know that I have boundaries, but also I am able to truly enjoy my life and go after my goals and hobbies. Here are some quick things that I enjoy the most: 

  • Do whatever I want. If I cant get the dishes done, then it’s fine. If I want to go out to eat with myself or son, I can. I make my own time and schedule. I can organize my schedule and house as I see fit! 
  • Enjoy the extra time with my son. I get twice the cuddles and hugs and LOVE IT.  He is growing too quick. 
  • Work on myself. I have been working on myself in many ways: spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I realized that I needed some assistance and took action. 
  • Enjoy hobbies. I am getting back into the swing of this, people ask me what I do outside of work and I honestly don’t even know! So I started to spike an interest where I saw fit. 
  • Relax. I can sit down and take time out to pause through out the day! 
  • Rely on me. I like being in control and taking charge of my life. I enjoy being able to trust in myself and make decisions. 

Yes, I get lonely but I wouldn’t change it just yet. I will only be at this place one time in my life, so I might as well enjoy it and embrace it. What tips do you have for other parents who are single? 

Susie Liberatore is the owner, and Art Director, of Visions2images Creative Services. She helps established businesses grow their brand awareness by using digital marketing and professional branding techniques. With over a decade of agency and corporate experience, she brings businesses’ visions to life, while watching their return on investment increase.

Susie helps businesses grow their brand presence and connect with their target audience.

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Balancing life as a single mom and entrepreneur

I wish that I had advice for single moms…. balance, and entrepreneur life. I do not have much to say other than I need help. I am burnt out, I am tired. 

I beat myself up day in and day out, am I doing what’s best for Antonio? Am I taking time for myself? Am I growing my business the way I have planned? 

A year ago, I never thought I would be where I am today, but I also know that it is okay to ask for help. I am grateful and blessed, but sometimes being a full time single mom can be overwhelming. 

I see my other friends or entrepreneur friends who are married, and they don’t get it. It is one of the hardest things ever to be a single mom to a special needs child and have a business. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I just wish there were more awareness and local groups to help cope. Sometimes it can be hard to cope or find people WHO get it and will offer support. 

My advice? It is important to choose good people and build trust with others so you can ask for help knowing that you can rely on them. It is also important to know it is okay to take time off of work and enjoy time with your children. Life is too short to not enjoy it.

Susie Liberatore is the owner, and Art Director, of Visions2images Creative Services. She helps established businesses grow their brand awareness by using digital marketing and professional branding techniques. With over a decade of agency and corporate experience, she brings businesses’ visions to life, while watching their return on investment increase.

Susie helps businesses grow their brand presence and connect with their target audience.

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How to Protect Yourself At All Times

Since going through a divorce, I have realized that I need to be able to cover myself and my family. I needed to step up mentally for myself and my son. I do not trust anyone, right now, and don’t know if I ever will again. When I say mentally, what I mean is change my mindset. You see when you change your mindset and realize that you have happiness right in front of you.

Going through a divorce caused me to make a lot of changes, changes that needed to be made. I am thankful for these these changes as they have helped me become the person that I needed to be. For so long I felt like I wasn’t the Susie most people knew and I was lost. It was because I let go of myself.

When you think you can trust someone and all the things go wrong, you learn real fast to protect yourself. Whether you are going through a divorce, or just are going through things, there are a few things you can do to protect yourself:

 

  1. Get everything in writing: This is key, you need to make sure that you are always watching your shoulder. Anything of any importance needs to be always documented. This will protect you so much in the long run.
  2. Bite your tongue: There will be drama, but you need to know it doesn’t matter. Just bite your tongue and let the he/she said crap go away. No one cares about it in court.
  3. Watch who you talk to: I deleted a TON of people out of my life. This doesn’t mean necessarily deleting off social media, but rather not talking to them about anything that could harm myself. If you decide to talk mutual people, just keep what is going on to yourself.
  4. Do not lie: I don’t ever lie period. SO this is a no brainer to me. But if you have everything in writing there is no way to lie.
  5. Have a mentor: Someone you can help you, and listen. Whenever I wanted to react to something I would call this person and they would talk me out of doing something stupid. This person could be a sibling, best friend, or parent. You want to make sure that it is someone you can trust.
  6. Hire a lawyer: My lawyer bill is HIGH. But I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way simply because I never went through this before so I did not know what to expect. I had to ask tons of questions and send tons of information including screenshots and it all added up.

You need to protect yourself at all times, since there is going to be so much going on. You have to “do you” and take care of you that is it. Do not second guess yourself AT ALL. You will get through this hardest time of your life, do not worry.

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Three Daily Easy Routines For Single Mom’s 

Three Daily Easy Routines For Single Mom’s 

Being a single mom I have learned how to manage my time better than ever before. I have learned how to really track every single minute of the day in order for it to be successful. I do not like being in a rush or being late whenever possible; this is why I have such a great system and routine in place. 

    1. Start the night before: I am not a morning person. My brain is barely awake in the morning and therefore I do not like doing a whole bunch of things in the morning. When I wait until the morning to do things that is when my anxiety and stress kicks in.  There is a ton of things to do in the mornings and I do not have time to do it all. 

 

  1. Making sure they have a set bedtime: Enforce your children’s bed time. This might take some getting used to, but when it is bedtime Antonio goes into his room and goes to bed. I make sure that his isn’t on the phone or watching tv. I let my son go in his room at 9 P.M. and sometimes he sits in there and talks or plays, but he is in bed ready to fall alsleep. You also want to make sure that you FOLLOW a bed schedule. This will help you in the long run for sure. You do not want to not get enough sleep only for the morning to be a nightmare when you can’t wake up on time.
  2. Prep the night before: This means for yourself and the children. Get the clothes out for the next day, take a shower/bath, do your hair, meal prep and get lunches ready, have any bags packed, etc. Making a checklist for each night will be so helpful for you, and the kids, as well. 

When it is just me as a single mother there is so much more to every single minute of the day; I follow some easy tips and routines to help my schedule flow nicely. Find ways to make your schedule efficient as a single mother. 

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What I Love About Being a Single Mom

You know when you are no longer married or have your best friend near you, you start to find and discover yourself all over again. I married young; I was 20 when I tied the knot. I never fully had the experience and independence that most people do in those years because of being married. For 11 years and then some, I thought he was the one and went head over heels for him.

The truth of the matter is that at first, I was, of course, sad and scared when I realized the divorce was going to happen. I felt alone and mad. Despite that, I had to change my mindset. I had to change what I was thinking and figure out how to overcome and gain closure.

Once I started to work on my mindset, I realized that I love being on my own. I LOVE IT!


  1.  Leftovers. I have found that I can save money by eating leftovers. I will actually eat them until they are gone and not mind! Rather than eating them to save money, why waste food?!
  2. No need to cook anything fancy. I don’t need to make full entrees and fancy food that will sit in the fridge for days and be wasted. I used to cook so much, never eat the remainder, and end up throwing it out. Now, some days I don’t really cook at all. We might have sandwiches, pizza, or chicken nuggets. I try to keep our food balanced, don’t get me wrong, but there are days we spoil that a little.
  3. No one to complain. There is nothing worse than coming home after a long day and being nagged. I love being able to wake up in the morning on my own, have those moments alone, and clear my head mentally so I can prep for a great day.
  4. No real need to worry. If the house isn’t clean or the laundry isn’t done, I don’t have to worry about feeling guilty and rushing to tidy. I don’t have to ask for help; I can just do it whenever I get around to it.
  5. Better finances. I know that I don’t go out and spend my money foolishly on anything that I don’t need. The desire to go to the gas station and the store all the time to be happy and spend money vanished. I can manage my money and budget quite well now.
  6. New friendships. When you go through a divorce, you lose friends or remove them from your life because you don’t want to choose sides. You must find new friends that can relate to what you are going through. I have made so many new friends that I couldn’t even imagine living without them.

I have learned to embrace the whole divorce journey and being on my own. You need to find the beauty in a new chapter; otherwise, you will live a miserable life for the rest of your days. I can live the way I want to without feeling bad or guilty about it now.

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My Story: A Single Mom While Raising An Autistic Child

I never thought divorce was in my future. I never did. Here I am now. However, I realize I have been taking care of my son now for quite some time, so it doesn’t feel any different. The only aspect out of the ordinary is that we aren’t living together, and I don’t have the love I did before.  Parenting is challenging, period, but it is especially hard when you are co-parenting or being a single mother.

We try to co-parent, but it has been tough. It’s hard to communicate and enforce parenting skills for both of us, especially with an autistic kid. I want to talk more; it is so difficult for all three of us now to be on the same page. What I have come to realize is that we are all human and need to all take care of one another and be adults. Put all the other stuff to the side and parent. Even though we try to co-parent as much as possible, there are still a ton of struggles and elements that are hard as a single parent.


I love my son, would do anything for him, and always will, period. It has been tough trying to manage and juggle his therapy, life, a business, and adulting. You truly start to see all we take for granted. I have learned how to accept things for what they are and do it myself. I can do everything myself and do not need anyone.

When I knew were going through a divorce, I told my son’s school and asked them to watch for clues that he needed help or wasn’t behaving properly. But he seemed to adjust okay, so we didn’t have to worry about that too much. The main focus is making sure we all communicate.

We are on a schedule and pattern; we keep the flow of things going smoothly. I make sure that we all know the importance of our routine. My son is a very structured person, so when something is off, he can sense it and needs preparation for that change.

We use visuals whenever possible. We started using a chart that shows if our boy is going with dad or mom or school. This measure has been such a big factor in helping us all. I make sure to tell him we are going to daddy’s soon, so it helps him mentally and emotionally prepare for it.

Since he is nonverbal, we must always use a lot of sign language. He is smart and understands so much. If you ask questions, he can respond with a yes or no or with what he wants. He has a strong understanding, and we keep learning and growing. I incorporate at home what he learns at his school so that we keep increasing his progress.  

If you are nearly a single mother, know that you are not alone. Know that you can handle whatever life might throw at you, from all the issues in the house to kid troubles to work problems. You have it all under control and can do amazing things.

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What NOT to Say to Someone Going Through a Divorce

Going through a divorce is tough. It doesn’t get easier for a long, long, long time. Here’s the thing I couldn’t tell many people about what I was going through at first because I was embarrassed and didn’t want people to feel bad for me. At first, I felt bad for myself and my family, etc. Yes, family, because once you are with someone for so long, they become that family too.

But, once circumstances started to move forward into motion, I realized that it is not as bad as it seems. I will be fine. I will work through and be happy somehow. Changes had to be made to move forward; it just took time.

Here are some things that I HATED people saying to me.


  •  The grass is greener – like what? That’s great; it’s going to be fine, I get that. But right now, I can’t even see straight. I feel sick to my stomach and can’t even sleep. My heart is broken and torn into a million pieces. So, while it may be greener, it will take time to heal.
  • There are other fish in the sea – UHH okay. Yes, there are, but now I have to find someone AGAIN, and I am already in my 30’s. I have to let him know what I like physically, emotionally, sexually, etc. Who has time for all that when you were with your ex for so long?
  •  I’m so sorry – My response is always, “me too.” Do you think I am not sorry and don’t feel bad? Don’t you think that I wish things could have been different? Are you going to help me get through this? Or do you just feel sorry?
  •  You are better off without him/her – How? That person was there for me during everything for however long. Right now, I have no one. How can I pick up all of those pieces? This statement goes back to the ‘grass is greener;’ it will get better in time. But that person was a part of my life for soooo long that I still can’t see myself without him/her.
  • Protect yourself – Get a lawyer and take everything from the person. What? He is still the father of my son, a person, and has worked hard. We were a partnership, and we deserve equal shares.
  • You will be fine – Yes, I will be fine, but when? Right now I am not, and my family is not. So, thanks for letting me know.
  • It’s his loss – Is it, truly? I think it’s both of our losses. We both have lost each other and everything we have worked for during that time.
  • 50% of marriages end anyway – This one is REALLY foolish to me. It bothers me. Yeah, but I never thought it would be me. People never think it’s going to happen to them. Yeah, I get that, but really? That doesn’t make it okay or make me feel any better.

Instead of saying those phrases, try using these.

  • You are strong
  • You are confident
  • Time will heal
  • Take care of you
  • Bible verses have helped a lot.
  • Offer solutions or help
  • I am proud of you


For anyone going through a divorce, it sucks. Even if you have gone through one, don’t say the pieces above; it doesn’t help. Find ways to uplift the person and make them laugh. The last thing we want to do is cry more or think about someone else. We need friends, support, and to feel like we can be independent and get through life. When I started going through a divorce, I had one friend send me bible verses or inspirational quotes every day. If any of my friends or family sent me any negative things or screenshots of what was happening in his life, I would ask them to stop. You need to get over it and let go because the sooner you do, the sooner life works out.

So, the next time you want to make any of these remarks to someone who is going through a divorce, be positive and uplift them instead. Let them know you care and will be there for them!

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How to See the Signs of a Divorce Early On

You can always save your marriage as long as two people are willing. That is what they used to tell me. I don’t know if that is true anymore; I don’t know much. I thought the other person would always want to fight for their marriage.

Do you usually see the signs? Sometimes. But, we never think anything of it until it’s too late. You can search online for a million reasons or explanations, but I have first-hand experience with the state of an emotional divorce. (It’s going to emotional no matter what.)  

When I look back now, I see that there were signs, but I didn’t pay attention. Why? Because we think it can never happen and we are meant to be together forever. Or so we think. What honestly is forever? How do people stay together?

I grew up with my family being successful and not having any divorces. It was something about how we were raised. I was raised to believe you can work through anything. Yes, even an affair. But both parties have to WANT to and have to forgive. I guess I always had that mentality which is why I never thought divorce was an option.


What are the signs?

– [ ] No date nights

– [ ] Lack of communication

– [ ] Arguing about small things

– [ ] Not listening to each other

– [ ] Constant nagging

– [ ] Not agreeing on much

– [ ] Not doing things as a family

– [ ] No actual support for one another

– [ ] No friends/support

– [ ] No hobbies

Two people need to understand how a marriage works and what the goals are in all fields: financial, career, family, marriage, etc. We can all get so caught up in life and work that we do not realize what is in front of us. Getting older allows us to recognize the importance of taking time out regularly for ourselves, our family, our career, and our spouse. You see how our spouse is last. They should be first, or at least after ourselves anyway. We run out of time, and we are drained and tired.

You can come up with a million excuses and reasons for anything in life. We both seemed to do that in our marriage and weren’t on the same page. Maybe it was because of my special needs son, or perhaps it was because we didn’t see eye to eye. Whatever it is, it sucked.

When you marry someone, you think you can work through anything, and it is going to be glamorous. No, it’s not. There will come a time for everyone when you need to pick what to do. Fight and get help with your marriage or walk away. Before you walk away, look at the signs. Look at how it is being played out. If there is a lack of communication – why? Take that time to sit down at the dinner table after the kids go to bed and TALK. Talk about anything other than work.  

I think one of the biggest hurdles for me is what else do we talk about besides work and kids? Being older now, those two topics consume my conversations. What about the other subjects? Put together a list of ideas you want to talk about besides the standard adult stuff. I wish I had done this before my marriage crumbled. You can do it and attempt to save yours before it’s too late.
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