Reasons Why I’ll Never Get Married Again

After going through a divorce recently, I decided that I am not ever going to get married again. My dad told me not to say never, but I know in my mind and heart that I won’t remarry. Why? It isn’t worth it to me. I might date, fall in love, or move in with someone but the responsibilities of being married are too high.

When I was younger, I had the perfect picture of how marriage and life had to be laid out. You know, the union forever and ever, then having kids, maintaining a good job, next retirement, and being with that person my whole life. Maybe it is because my parents had that marriage success. Perhaps it doesn’t seem real anymore these days; maybe it’s make-believe. I do not know. Either way, when that dream gets crushed, why do it again?

All I know is that I won’t go through with marriage again. Here’s why.


  • Wedding – waste of money: having a wedding is WAY too expensive. I won’t ever have one, even with the justice of the court. We made a lot of money off of our wedding also, and where did it go? Who knows? Money is tough.
  • Divorce – waste of money: Then, when you decide your marriage isn’t going to work, it costs MORE money. You have to file and pay a lawyer and pay, pay, pay. It’s horrible. So, all that money you saved no longer matters. Besides, when you have to split assets between you and your ex, you both worked hard, and now, both just got screwed in many ways.
  • Emotional: the emotional element is one of the hardest, and I will not remarry for this reason. We get too attached, or I do. I relied on my ex WAY too much because that’s how it works, right? WRONG. Do not ever rely on anyone else but yourself. It is okay to ask for help, but never have someone do something that you can do.
  • Too much responsibility: There is too much involved with another marriage. You have to take care of that person, spend time with them, etc. When you go from married to divorce to single, you realize you can do so much and can rely on yourself.
  • Don’t want to change my name: Ain’t nobody got time to change names to new titles. It’s too much financially and physically, not even worth it.
  • I want all responsibility: I want to be independent and take care of everything myself. Being a single mom, I have done it all now. I don’t want to be codependent on someone again.
  • Financial: This should be one of the first reasons. Even if I got a prenup, you still could lose a lot of money from everything that happens during a marriage. I do not ever want to go through a divorce again and throw away so much money; from retirement to savings to paychecks to the rest.
  • Getting rid of photos: UM hello, empty walls. I am just going to fill the walls with my son and fun, dreamy decorations since that seems to be the best option.
  • Hurts everyone around me: You will lose family through a divorce, and even friends. People are understanding, but they feel the hurt and pain with you if you decide to get remarried, etc. It is just too complicated to try to determine who you are going to keep as friends or family through each step.

Why do we need to have that perfect picture marriage and life? Why does everyone feel hurt and the constant battle to fit that mold? I know I did, but why? What’s the big deal? Who cares if we have kids before marriage or never get married. Who cares? Let’s live life and stop over-thinking it all. People will change and hurt you… maybe intentionally or maybe unintentionally. There isn’t anything wrong with the decisions that you make. Screw up a little and let life throw a curveball at you – it’s fun!

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A Note to My Husband: To the Husband Who is My Rock

To the husband who is my rock.

It seems like we just met yesterday, and your brother introduced us to one another. It is crazy how fast time flies by. TEN years of marriage we have reached. I knew we could do it! But, really and truly, we have hit a lot of bumps in life and continue to lean upon one another every day.

  • You know I am an introvert. I don’t confess my feelings or communicate well at all. This is who I have been my whole life, and I take things WAY too personally. We always read about how hard motherhood really is or how wives take credit for everything, but what about dads? Dads are JUST as special and deserve some recognition.

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So, with our ten year anniversary hitting this month, I want you to know how special you truly are to me. I hope that you can see things through my eyes. With Father’s Day also coming around the corner, I can’t help but really be thankful for all that you, my husband and sugar daddy, have done for us. Lately it seems like we need to reconnect and rely on one another so this is an extra special post.

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Without further ado, here it goes!

Dear Chris,

You have been my best friend for over 12 years now. You have been my rock. You helped me discover who I was and who I wanted to be. You supported me more than I can ever acknowledge and appreciate. We have never been traditional by any means. We were married at the justice of the peace, and endured more than most couples simply because of you being in the army. That has resulted in us withstanding three moves, three deployments, and so much more. I am glad to be on this journey with you.

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I love all of these characteristics about you, even when it seems like we are falling:

  1. You put in long hours of work. You could come home, get out of the army, or make up excuses to leave. But you don’t. You have always been dedicated and loyal to everything that you do. That is what I love most about you – and what makes us perfect for one another. We always had the same goals.
  2. Go above and beyond. Along the same lines as the first, but you know what needs to be done and always achieve the goal. I remember just recently when you saved someone from a motorcycle crash. Did you need to get out of your car and help them? No. But you did and you went above and beyond expectations.
  3. Take care of us. Whenever any of us need something, you are right there. Like telling me to just do it. Because, let’s face it, I am stubborn and frugal at times. But, even beyond money, you take care of us. You listen and provide us with solutions whenever we feel so stuck.
  4. Always looking out for us. Everyone wants the best for their family, but your actions always speak better for us. You choosing to reenlist means the world to us knowing that we are settled for another couple of years while we focus on Antonio and my business. I know you believe in us, and that is why you attend to our needs.

You are the dad, and husband, that will drop anything for his wife and son. I never knew how much I really loved you until we became parents and grew older. There is something about becoming parents that makes life so different. We realized what we had, and what our future holds. Thank you for being the best husband and father that we could ever ask for. Happy ten year anniversary, my love. 

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